we have to find ways to restore the other sideās empathy. itās the only thing thatās worked for me.
Iām trans. I spent months talking with TERFs, long ago. it was horrible. but, I managed to make a connection with one of them. I described my experiences, my life, the feelings of dysphoria, the hurt from the hateā¦ she listened, and came to care about me, and left their hateful cult.
I repeated this with conservatives I met. taught myself to keep my cool, to be honest, to answer mocking with sincerity. I didnāt try to be āone of the good ones,ā I didnāt throw my sisters under the bus, I made it clear that most of us were like me - just wanting to live happy, fulfilling lives.
we need to make friends with enemies. even when they betray us and hurt us. itās dangerous but I can see no better way forward.
I wonāt disagree, that this can do good, but it can only work when violence can be avoided. Thatās the whole reason theyāre moving onto the deathcamps. They know they cannot win without rigging the game, and even that is a temporary measure.
we have to find ways to restore the other sideās empathy. itās the only thing thatās worked for me.
Iām trans. I spent months talking with TERFs, long ago. it was horrible. but, I managed to make a connection with one of them. I described my experiences, my life, the feelings of dysphoria, the hurt from the hateā¦ she listened, and came to care about me, and left their hateful cult.
I repeated this with conservatives I met. taught myself to keep my cool, to be honest, to answer mocking with sincerity. I didnāt try to be āone of the good ones,ā I didnāt throw my sisters under the bus, I made it clear that most of us were like me - just wanting to live happy, fulfilling lives.
we need to make friends with enemies. even when they betray us and hurt us. itās dangerous but I can see no better way forward.
I wonāt disagree, that this can do good, but it can only work when violence can be avoided. Thatās the whole reason theyāre moving onto the deathcamps. They know they cannot win without rigging the game, and even that is a temporary measure.