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I deeply disagree with you as a transman myself. My core never changed after transition… I was still me regardless of how people saw me before, during and after (took 15 years). I was just getting treatment (a cure of sorts). My medical conditions (or disabilities) don’t define my personality or who I am as a person. That’s absolute nonsense.
I was diagnosed at 24, it’s just a disability. It’s not part of who I am at my core. Developing coping mechanisms to deal with the disability isn’t part of me, it’s necessity.
I disagree with that way of thinking, it really isn’t sane to me. ADHD isn’t “part of who I am”, just like my myopia isn’t either. It’s not part of my personality, it’s just a disability I inherited. I can cure my myopia with laser eye surgery and when I get enough money to, I absolutely will and if there’s a cure for ADHD, I absolutely will cure it the same way I will my myopia. Disabilities aren’t my personality. Curing them won’t change who I am as a person (my brother and mother got laser eye surgery for their severe myopia… their personalities didn’t change, btw). That way of thinking is so damn reductive to me.
Yeah, this is why I have a physical calendar with stickers that I can place for tasks (they are called family calendars and have extra space to place pictograms and notes on each day of the months) and an app that notifies me of tasks to do at the same time (for any ADHD havers here, the app is called Habitica, it’s the best app I’ve found for ADHD, try it out; it really helps).
If I blend one out completely that day, the other reminds me non-stop on my phone (post-its were not helping at all on their own and weren’t precise enough compared to a family calendar). It helps with getting more tasks done than if I didn’t use those tools at all (I am medicated, but I still struggle with not doing tasks when my motivation is very low, you all know how it is).
I’ve seen this mentality way too much on Reddit subs. Often by the same people that say they are just “neurospicy” and that ADHD is quirky and makes up their entire identity. God that shit is cringe.
Even saw someone recently ask people if they would cure their ADHD if scientists came up with a cure. 90% of the responses were by sane people saying, “WTF question is that? Yes, I would cure it, it’s a disability!” and the op was just replying to them that ADHD was the reason they were creative and was their identity… Bro… Sometimes, I feel like some of these people aren’t even real.
Maybe I’m the odd one out, but I need some form of background noise to concentrate on anything. Whether that be music or someone endlessly yapping with a monotone voice in a video. Just anything that drowns out my endless stream of thoughts that have 0 to do with my task.
3·30 days agoI think there’s a big difference between choosing to not have kids for personal reasons and being anti-natalist to such an extent that you see others as subhumans for wanting or having kids. Your experience and feelings are valid and of a sound mind. The person who did this has a twisted mind and lacks empathy.
I get it, but at the same time, some very competent people that could be amazing parents need IVF and it’s not right to take that away from them or terrorize them for that choice.
Some might shame them for not adopting, but I think that’s a stupid mentality. Not everyone has the same needs to be filled with parenthood. Some want legacy, some want someone to love unconditionally, some want to give back to the community, some want a part of themselves and their partner to be left in this world, etc.
I’ve even heard some say IVF shouldn’t be covered by Universal Healthcare where I live, because “God didn’t want them to have kids anyway”, but if we went with that mentality, nothing would be covered by Universal Healthcare, because “God didn’t want them to live or be cured anyway”.
Too many people have a serious lack of empathy for others.
I’m sure kids that are still in high school, specifically, are overjoyed at the news.
Really, now people are mad that others are trying to have kids?
Doctors are keeping her alive by law, because of religious conservative control freaks*
Fixed it for you.
“Her soul is in heaven, satan posessed her body and the child is the child of the beast!” - Some religious people too.
I’ve heard it all. If one believes something, another doesn’t and it all makes sense, because that’s what God wanted (according to them and some random part of the bible that so happens to very vaguely support them).
God in the end is just a manifestation of their own desires to control others, whichever form of control they want to exercise anyway. They are control freaks. They can’t help it.
Oh, you don’t want to give birth after death and leave your family in financial and emotional distress? Too bad, I’m in control! It’s God that said so, suck it! I get to control you in his name!
You know, for religious people, you would think conservatives would find it satanic to grow a baby inside of a dead woman, like an afront to God or something, but hey, who am I to tell them which one of their crazy BS morals makes more or less sense.
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🙄 We got a genius over here.
It checks out that the people that read the most know the book the orange is trying to follow.
He should have leaned in and answered those questions with, “Are you a Nazi?”, with a dead serious stare into the guy’s soul.
Honestly, they might save at least some of the youth doing it.
I’m not even trying to; I’m just categorically disagreeing with you, which you don’t like. Remember, you replied to me to disagree, because you most likely didn’t like my position to begin with. I’m clarifying my position and why I don’t agree, since you replied to me. But yes, thank you. You too.