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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • So I spent the money on a NASA level bidet for that reason. Everyone I knew had been getting bidets and nobody would shut up about it, but they were all getting the $40 wands from Amazon. I couldn’t imagine my poor innocent pucker taking an icy blasting daily, so when we bought one we got the full toilet seat replacement with heated dryer, seat and water heater.

    After about 6 months I decided to turn the water heater off to save the .78cents a month in electricity, because it really didn’t make a difference to me. The water is in the little hose and in the pipes of the house sitting and waiting for my butt for hours, it’s perfectly room temp. I’ve never had a situation where my partner uses it first and then I do and the warm water runs down, or any other situation that would create that perfect storm, so I won’t be buying one with a heater again…

    The real life lesson I learned getting this bidet was because of the heated seat. You know the expression “you don’t know what you go til it’s gone”?

    Well at first I noticed the welcoming warmth of the seat, and because the toilet is extra smart it “learns” when to expect me and my partner and preheats the seat to save energy.

    But when I am off my routine, even just the weekends sometimes, I’ll go and take a seat: instant sad. It’s not freezing or anything, just unexpected enough and very mildly unpleasant. Something I never noticed before in my life (of luxury I guess, never had a bathroom so cold in my house that the change was shocking enough to register a memory.)

    Now, every other toilet in the world is a very mild disappointment. This is a Greek tragedy in modern times.



  • Guy was being an absolute creeper and you should have said “what the fuck?” But instead you did as you have been programmed and tried to maintain civility and not embaress the man who decided to harass you unprompted and continue when you gave the indication that you were uncomfortable.

    You did nothing wrong here and now it’s your fault because you are the woman in the exchange. Your sister would do welll to be an ally but if she doesn’t want to you ought to ask her how many DM’s her husband has sent out like that to other woman that she hasn’t seen. Then tell her to fuck off, tell him to fuck off and block him on whatever platforms you share.

    Fuck that’s so infuriating.


  • You seem to be choosing the few people who were able to get a lawyer in time… In your hypothetical, that is not guaranteed or even something I’d bet on. And you are also pointing out that they won’t obey judges orders anyways so… I’m very confused as to what argument you think you are making.

    Anyone who sees anyone being kidnapped should do their civic duty to stop it. Just because it suddenly seems to be government representatives that are doing the kidnapping now does not change that. You don’t know which it is.

    I do wonder how many people have already been disappeared with no cameras around and they are just “missing” according to their families who can’t/don’t want to go to the cops in case it was the cops all along.


  • We are on the same page.

    Just don’t anybody get their hopes up.

    I just remembered another time a distracted cop made me unhappy.

    There is a weird intersection that leads in from a right bend, then you must go north or south at lights, and there are 2 left turn and 1 right turn lane. It also sucks as there is another light to the south (left) that often backs up into this one.

    At least sometimes, the intersection was under construction so everytime I went through (once a week sometimes, sometimes not) I would get blindsided by “surprise the middle lane for left turn is closed!” Or “psyc! The middle lane is for right only and the right lane is closed!” Whatever, but you didn’t get to know that until you came around the bend.

    So I’m coming slowly around the bend, and there is already a lineup in the leftmost lane. Is this because the centre is closed? Because the centre is the only left lane? Because Toronto traffic? Who knows?!?

    So I round the corner and it’s because the centre lane is for right turning today and the right is closed right at the intersection. So I immediately start to look for a friendly soul to let me in. Low! A cop car, leaving a full car length of room ahead of them! I approach slowly and merge in. Sadly I’m a truck so my butt is sticking out slightly, but because the right lane is totally closed ahead there is 1 3/4 lanes to get around me. I wave a thank you at the cop.

    Oops.

    The cop rolls down her window and squeezes in along side my angle, blocking the bike ‘lane’ or whatever space was there before the temp barrier for construction.

    I get a dressing down, how I’m cutting her off, blocking the other lane and I should line up like everyone else (I don’t point out that 3 cars have gone around me and are now signalling and butting in while blocking right turn traffic.)

    I passive aggressively say “sorry, I guess you were distracted and that’s why you left the space!” And as soon as the car ahead gave me an inch I weaslesd back out and into the centre lane. I wait for the people butting in to get out of the way and I make a right, make a left into a lot and turn around and pull out. And as I drive through the intersection I can see her still 2 cars back from being able to turn. So from then on I just did that if I got caught in the wrong lane.

    And to the officer I say: if you don’t want people to think you are being a thoughtful driver, pay some fucking attention. Also maybe pull over one of the countless asshats who were blocking traffic and forcing their way in? So strange you didn’t bother doing that as I’m sure if you WERE WATCHING you would have noticed many…

    Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.



  • I did that for a cop that was busy on their computer waiting for a left turn at a light. They didn’t notice the 2 cars ahead had made the turn and noone behind them could tell or dared honk. I was beside them watching. They eventually looked up, I think we’re confused because the cars were long gone so their autopilot didn’t think “ok follow now”, then slammed on the gas and then slammed on the brakes as the light had gone red and cross traffic was proceeding. I sent the car number, licence plate and description of the officer, as well as time of day, to the complaints number.

    The response I got back was “thanks so much, we looked into it. Bye.”




  • “It feels like people are purposely making it impossible to be respectful to everyone…” Yeah by ignoring simple social cues (or a written article) that would have allowed them to correctly and respectfully refer to another person, if they would have had the energy to allow a single additional neuron to fire off in there.

    “…I will go with offending the gendered people.” You know everyone here can see your previous posts right? Where you correctly gender Trump, Musk, and probably every other cicgendered person without having any trouble. But nice edgy touch…