I’m not sure if that’s a good idea to start as a trend. It’d make it easier for actual ICE agents to hide in plain sight.

I don’t think making it easier for state-endorsed terrorism to fly under the radar is a good strategy for stopping it. If you physically intervene with every terrorist-fashioned individual you see you’re much more effective when they’re all actually ICE and not just trolls. And I’d very much recommend that course of action.

I find this accusation funny because I am a feminist

How you can be for equality of sexes yet still think one’s benefits are more important than another in a relationship? I’m mansplaining and gatekeeping feminism to a woman on the internet. Wow, you got me, I am definitely an asshole.

I think this lead to me self sabotaging our relationship […]

You also might want to reflect on how all of the things you describe in this paragraph would actually qualify as emotional abuse of your boyfriend, not self-sabotage. This is really dangerous because getting back together with your boyfriend might make you both fall into your old ways, which can include the addiction and the abuse. I hope you’ve recovered enough for that to not happen.

Anyway, I’m going to stop talking before I make more of an ass of myself. Just know that there’s always people you can reach out to if you need help or for a random chat on the internet. I should go to bed. Goodnight.

It sounds like you’ve found a great guy, I can understand why you wouldn’t want to let him go. I hope he sees just as much greatness in you.

I feel by making the small sacrifice of having a sub optimal relationship dynamic I am making it so that for once the good guy wins.

Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm, but if this is what you both want then give the relationship dynamic (not the fire thing) a try. I also can’t help but notice that all of your examples of bad people are in the USA – you might find a more optimistic outlook in Europe or in other developed countries.

Everyone knows that men benefit more from relationships then women, I am taking on that burden to make it up to him

Please don’t ever believe this. It’s just internalized misogyny. If you’re in a relationship where you’re giving more than you’re getting, that’s a horrible relationship and you should leave.

Identity and morality are way more heavily intertwined than your reasoning makes it out to be. Rules that maintain group cohesion is part of the group’s identity, but you’ve defined that as morality. For example, the mafia is known specifically for their lack of morality within their ranks and outside of it. Religious communities have similar reputations (e.g. hating minorities, others, etc.).

My biggest objection, though, is the idea that there must be an in-group. That implies that there is an out-group. A stable society is not one where there is inequality in any appreciable amount. People in the out-group will feel like outcasts and will literally fight to become part of the in-group. I don’t think anyone would call (civil?) wars a sign of stability*.

PS If you ask a less leading question you might get less downvoted

* They could be a sign of upcoming stability, though that’s not the same thing.

You need to rebuild that trust that was destroyed by the cheating and the breakup. You should also have a long talk with your boyfriend about any unhealed wounds from that time. If you’re going to make it work, a lot of communication needs to happen and keep happening. It sounds like you made a good first step by identifying part of the reason you cheated and fixing it!

So we are getting back together I remember how much I love him and miss him the past 9 months without him and he is missing me to

I’m a bit concerned about this. These are natural parts of a breakup and really aren’t good reasons to get back together, since it could just as easily be an inability to get over each other. Also seeing your comment in reply to another

Also we don’t want to break up. I have been through so much with him and he has done so much for me. He likewise knows that dating is hard especially where we live it’s not like he has girls sliding into his dms to replace me.

It gets more concerning. It sounds like both of you want to stay together because you don’t want to be alone. A healthy relationship is one that all parties can leave at any moment but choose to stay because they want to. You don’t want it to be like an addiction where you say you can quit anytime but really you can’t because you won’t be able to handle the withdrawal.

I think a healthy mindset for this is that being single is ok. Breaking up will be ok, eventually. I’m not saying you should break up and be single, but just you should be aware that if you’re wondering why you’re putting up with your boyfriend, it’s because he’s adding more than being single (with friends and maybe casual sex) can to your life. If that’s ever not true, run.

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Any way to confirm this is legit?

You say you’re open source but don’t link to the open source code. Nothing more

Their source code: https://github.com/silexlabs

there’s a lot of mention about being FOSS but they never actually prove it, which is funny to me

I was hoping it was an April Fools joke but now I’m just disappointed for two reasons.

It’s confusing why it’s such a big leap.

Because saying “I’ll do [thing] until I die” is not the same as “If I stop doing [thing] you can kill me”.

Also it’s odd to assume you’d break the vow after not accepting them cheating. From my cultural POV when you cheat. You’d forfeit the vow.

If the vow is broken by cheating, then the part of the vow about being lawfully wedded until death is also broken. So then you’d also lose your right to murder them to get out of the vow, since you’re already out of the vow. If you’d like a fun take on divorce as murder, see The Orville’s Moclans.

Which would bring dishonour upon your family and that includes a direct disrespect of the other family.

Is your culture Klingon? Because honour is not a real thing, it’s just an excuse to shame people for doing things some don’t like. If you’ve got a good reason why it has to be this way, I’d love to hear it. As it stands, that’s just intolerance by peer pressure, which are both bad things to do. I’d encourage you to spend a bit of time doing some critical thinking about your culture, since I saw some of your other replies saying that some of your beliefs come from your culture. I come from a culture that still likes marriage a lot (Canada + Catholic), but that same culture is also responsible for (triggers incoming) genocide, child abuse, cultural cleansing, and rampant pollution.

Hey I cheated, or tried leaving (Not leaving because of abuse) since I believe if someone was abusing you. They’d also break the vow since the vow is to protect, love and care until death.

I’m not going to defend cheating too much, but the vow has no statement about monogamy (though that is usually and reasonably assumed to be the case) so the pedant in me would like to point out that cheating is not breaking the vow. Even with the reasonable assumption that cheating is breaking the vow, the vow does not set consequences for breaking it. Technically, divorce does not even break the vow. It is also possible to protect, love, and care until death while ending the marriage. Even after a divorce, your partner was still your lawfully wedded partner. (I don’t really agree with this paragraph, but it’s a totally valid opinion with some strong arguments so I wanted to mention it)

For Time do us part. While it may seem lesser. It’s acknowledging the flow of time and how someone can change throughout life. Though in reality there could be a better option but it’s more making it apparent the importance of meaningful statements.

I’d like to believe that the vow is acknowledgement that they intend to fulfill it until death. From that basic tenet and knowing that humans aren’t perfect [citation needed], it’s easy to come to the premise that somebody might grow to realize they can’t fulfill that vow, and so they want to get a divorce. It’s actually probably the most protective, loving, and caring thing a partner could do – realize they aren’t good with their partner and so leave. The fact that they broke the vow does not invalidate their intent to fulfill it when they started the marriage. This is basically the idea behind no-fault divorce, btw.

If you want to acknowledge time by changing the vow from “death” to “time”, you’re definitely allowed to for your own wedding. But don’t presume that people don’t understand the meaning of what they’re saying because they made a vow that they ultimately didn’t keep.

Here’s a parting thought: Would a good partner ever murder their spouse? Is human life truly valued lower than this made up concept called “honour”?

I’m like 70% this is just bait, but I’ve got some time to break it down so I’ll bite. For reference, the traditional vow is usually something along the lines of

I, [my name], take you, [partner’s name], for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.

From OP:

What this entails if you mean it,

If someone cheats. The other partner has the right to kill them, if one tries leaving without mutual agreement. The other one can kill them. It’s not about anything unhealthy but two people collectively agreeing to a statement.

That’s quite the leap from promising to take someone as your lawfully wedded partner until death to having the right to kill them if they do something you don’t like. In fact, the vow does explicitly say that you have to take them for better or for worse, which would include just about any sleight against you, including cheating. So not only do you not gain the right to kill them, you yourself would break the vow if you stopped having/accepting them when they cheated.

If you don’t want that then something like Till Time Do Us Part.

This way there is no death involved and your relationship isn’t built on a false and shallow promise.

Is there actually a reasonable interpretation where promising to do something until death is less shallow than promising to do something until time progresses? Promising to do something for a period of time without specifying the period means that doing it for 1 second is enough. Unless you’re going to die in the second after you get married, “until death” is a lot more meaningful.

If you’re unwilling to make a vow with any heft to it, don’t get married. Marriage is no longer required in a good portion of the world thanks to common law “marriages” now. In other places, marriage is just a legal contract which can be broken by another proceeding called “divorce”, not “murder”. In most of the world, it’s agreed upon that nobody has the right to murder someone else in any circumstance except for war (and plenty of people would prefer that single exception be removed too).

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If the US government didn’t work with the US military that would be crazy

Just FYI forgejo does have federation, but it’s disabled by default. No idea how good/stable/complete it is… https://forgejo.org/docs/latest/admin/config-cheat-sheet/#federation-federation

It’ll be interesting to see how the launch goes. Maybe Decky itself will get onto the Steam store one day…

They’re mostly breaking the GUI of game mode, which causes it to restart the game mode GUI. The underlying OS isn’t really affected – you should be able to SSH into an affected system or force boot into desktop mode.

Seems like they’re keeping the link up to date on their telegram https://t.me/s/SiegedSecurity

I’m sure many people would be much more willing to go into the office if they got paid for their commute. Even better if they got the pollution from their commute offset. Nothing lazy about wanting to be compensated for things you’re doing for your employer.

It’s a plugin for Decky loader that allows you to control the Steam Deck’s fan

Interesting how they discussed hardware mods but not software mods (for the OS, not for games). I’m probably biased, but I’d think those would be more popular than hardware mods since they’re much more accessible to the average user.

By default, Fairphone uses Android yeah. But Ubports has support for some of their models.