Sorry for the slow reply and thank you.
I’m not even sure at this stage if I can as I understand so little but here goes.
He’s what I perceive to be high functioning. In fact most of what they call out I view as being just a little boy. I’m slightly concerned that this attitude comes from my own childhood and whether we establish that I’m also neuro divergent but am keen that I focus on him and not me.
He’s bright, good with maths as his mum teaches this. Struggles in class as they’re not great at understanding his needs and just see him as wiggly/playing class clown to impress others etc.
He has always had sound sensitivity so people calling that out is interesting to me.
We’re working with the school to get better mechanisms in place to support himvand my wife is already amazing at helping him at home.
In my head I need to get onboard too, and transition away from being the typical authoritarian role that a dad may take. I need to understand better what autism is and how to support him
Thanks for taking the time to reply. These are really good points as I am not particularly good at fitting in myself. I position it as a super power (no peer pressure) but as you say, to a certain degree your child needs to conform.
I think I probably need to learn to be a parent and support as I have taken the opportunity for my wife being a very good mum to slack off myself