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Cake day: November 13th, 2023

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  • Which is rich considering that a lot of southern conservative politicians model their speaking style on pastors and ministers, complete with reverb to sound like they’re in the pulpit. It’s a signature style. Where the speaker. Has a habit. Of talking. Slowly. And, deliberately. To sound like. They have. Moral authority.

    It’s always projection with these clowns.



  • I have the opposite problem. All the adjectives/synonyms come to mind at once, stammering while I have to sift through all that noise in real-time. It makes me feel like my mother tongue is a foreign language sometimes.

    Protip: if this is you, just pause mid-sentence and look thoughtful while you pull it together. It’ll make you look even smarter.


  • It started in the late 40’s, which is on the early side.

    My wife is suffering severely with mental health but will not see a psychiatrist. I suspect perimenopause. She does see a therapist.

    I’m very sorry to hear that; I can appreciate that the struggle for you both has to be very, very real. It’s a raw deal and it’s hard to manage. I wish you both the very best on this.

    What I can share is that finding a good Gyno was instrumental in all this. We went through several practices before we found one that was sympathetic to what was going on. to my complete shock and horror, some seemed far more interested in treating reproduction and reproductive health issues than aging and quality-of-life1. Your town might be different than mine, but I suggest that you both be prepared to move around a bit if you can’t get support right away. You might find that doctors that are LGBTQ+ friendly as more willing and better equipped to handle this kind of thing.

    1. I really need someone with an educated background in women’s issues to make exact sense of this beyond “this isn’t right/fair”. I’m way out of my element.


  • There’s also a tendency to experience a diaspora after, or in the immediate years after, school. Say, your mid-20’s or so. That’s potentially a big chunk of your support network disappearing from your life.

    Building a routine of healthy habits and sticking to it can make a world of difference.

    Exactly. Those coming to diagnosis and support while young stand a chance to be trained and armed for independence, and an adult life of holding one’s self to one’s own standards (hopefully). For many of us oldsters, being diagnosed later, or only learning about mindfulness and CBT well past our formative years, it’s a huge struggle to cobble together habits and a better mindset.



  • Yes/no. I’ve seen every permutation over the years though. Some in the median or on the sidewalk with no warning signage, some with. Some just up a pole somewhere out-of-sight with no warning signage. Some big-ol trailer contraptions complete with police/county seals on the front. I’ve even seen some that were temporary tripods set up in front of unmarked cars on the shoulder, for some mobile overnight shenanigans.

    I can’t say they’re all 100% bad. Just maybe some of the sneakier implementations run afoul of my thesis above.

    vandalise

    I don’t condone that, but that’s kind of convenient!


  • GI Joe action figure.

    I don’t think that’s a coincidence. Consider when Jeeps started showing up with all the off-road accessory options. I’ve seen some that were just short a Cobra/Joe logo on the side. Gen-X is has been in the management and disposable-capital age bracket for a while now, making all the decisions that drive these aesthetics, and we were all raised on that stuff.


  • I can only speak for myself, but I absolutely add any form of hidden speed traps to the list. Cops know they can perform “traffic calming” by parking a marked cruiser in an easily seen location, be it on a highway or a city street. People see the car and slow down. This works anywhere it’s clear they can join traffic and pull you over. The officer effortlessly achieves a local bump in traffic safety just by sitting there, and cops don’t need to do risky traffic stops unless someone is really not paying attention. So that’s gotta be the preferred method, right?

    Meanwhile, hidden traps and unmarked cars have only one purpose: generate ticket revenue. The only mass “calming” that happens is kinda/sorta in the area where a cop has someone pulled over - and that’s after the car is clearly visible.

    Edit: We can also solve speeding and reckless behavior by engineering calming measures into the road itself. The freaking DOT wrote a manual for it. IMO, it’s hard to view speed traps as anything more than a band-aid fix with this in mind.