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Cake day: October 20th, 2023

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  • This is something that I had growing up. I’d always be overthinking if my friends really liked me or if I’m acting too extra etc.

    I’ve embraced my extra behaviour now and my friends don’t seem to mind and my view is why should I hide who I am, if you don’t like re me for me then that’s fine.

    Now my friends all know my quirks and there is some gentle ribbing at times, but again embrace who you are.

    I’m open about me overthinking and when I feel I as m doing it I’ll say so. They’re good with me disappearing for a week when I need some alone time to recharge and they’re good constantly fact checking them when they talk some bull shit based on vibes.

    I guess it’s true that as you age you begin to filter yourself less as frankly it’s exhausting.


  • This is how I got diagnosed at 38 and 4 years later my life is unrecognisable I went from having no less than 60 dead end jobs where I would just quit on a whim, be unable to get out of bed and just not turn up and get fired or not taking shit from some cunt paid 10p an hour more than me to talk to me j like shit. I’m replaceable but the company got a dead end job replaceable.

    I got lucky and was hired at Apple in the UK and worked the Genius Bar and they had healthcare, as mental health care is lacking here. With this healthcare and being surrounded by talented people and always seeing all these relatable memes lead me to seek a diagnosis. And I’m now a software developer for a great small company that treats us like people.

    I’m not perfect and the medication wrecks me so don’t take it often, but just knowing you’re not broken means a lot and routine can be worked on and you can get coping strategies.

    So yes there are tests you can do but I would seek a professional to help with this. As an example of what to expect, they ask a lot about your schooling and jobs you’ve had etc.

    The thing that was shocking for me is that ADHD people will develop coping strategies and you don’t even realise. Like I didn’t think I was hyperactive, but they have a test for that that watched your eyes and I scored hella high on that. My coping strategy for fidgeting is to sit on cursors like a lunatic, feet are not on the floor. I’m sat on one foot with my other foot resting on the seat kinda with my knee coming up near my face 😂. This is a hard habit to break and hell for your back.

    Go for it dude you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

    If you want to ask specific questions, as I’m conscious this is just a stream of thought, hmu I got you.





  • Thanks dude.

    I am incredibly fortunate that my boss is a Saint and we literally put ourselves first and the work second. It’s a small company and we are not expected to think about work outside of work and they’ve shown time and time again with their actions that they are good people.

    I just don’t have that kind of drive for coding now outside of work as work satiates that desire, which means out of work I can focus on mental health which for me comes from being outside or doing something.

    I will say the past isn’t amazing as I’m quite new but has two raises and a reduction in hours in less than 2 years.


  • You’re right I could be helping out I mom the open source side, but I really struggle to even turn on my Pc when not working (mental health) so don’t feel I am the best person to contribute.

    This is why my focus has been on getting friends and family to stop spending money on streaming services as every little helps.

    You’re correct in that the only thing that matters to me is that people I care about save money. That’s it. I’m in awe of people doing more than me, but we can only do what we feel we are able. Together it all makes a difference.


  • My aim is to get my friends and family to stop paying for streaming services and if I have to pay for Plex to achieve this then that’s a win.

    Jellyfin is nowhere near as feature complete as Plex and not by a long shot. My users don’t like the UI of Jellyfin and setting up for remote access is no trivial feat. With this in mind and my goals Plex is better suited.

    So far have 8 users all saving £10-40 a month not going to streaming services.






  • Painkillers have kicked in now, but I really do want to continue this discussion so I’ll make this as unread and respond tomorrow when I can give your reply the time it deserves and I can be somewhat coherent.

    I do apologise for the LLM version, it was in no way because I think you’re stupid and more because I know I have a tendency to digress and in the past that hasn’t been received well so my intention was to have something where the writing style isn’t going to turn people off from the thoughts I’m trying to convey.

    Have a nice evening and I’ll hit you with a reply tomorrow. 😊.


  • Here is a rewrite of this stream of consciousness that an LLM helped with which might be more palatable. I am neurodivergent and stream of consciousness is my bag, writing isn’t. So LLMs have massive utility for here.

    I get where you’re coming from, but honestly, that’s not been my experience at all. I’ve used LLMs both at home and at work, and while they’re not magic, they’re absolutely useful—especially if you already know what you’re doing and want to skip the repetitive or boilerplate stuff.

    At home, for example, I set up a Docker-based media server. I’ve done it before, but using the LLM meant I didn’t have to dive into docs or endless Google threads. It saved time and frustration.

    At work, we use an internal tool powered by an LLM to generate the standard boilerplate we always need in enterprise apps. So when we add a new model in C#, it auto-generates the typical queries, mutations, GraphQL setup, and React admin pages. Just saving that hour or so per model adds up—on a project with 30+ models, that’s a whole week of dev time. And since it caches results unless the model changes, it’s fast and reliable (though yeah, sometimes it messes up the DB table file and we rerun it).

    It’s also great for common patterns—like useMemo for filtering dropdowns in React. I can write it manually or copy it from somewhere else, but why not just add a comment like // filtered clients and let it handle it? Same with array sorting. I know how, but my time is better spent on the harder stuff.

    And that’s the key point: LLMs free up brain space. They don’t replace learning or experience. I had to integrate with Sage using the Intacct SDK recently—had no clue where to start. The LLM helped me explore the API, figure out how to get Reporting Periods, Nominals, etc., and build a small test app. Once I understood it, then I integrated it into the product.

    It accelerates my learning, and my boss—who is ridiculously smart and built this whole system—can spend his time on the harder problems instead of walking me through step-by-step. Even he uses LLMs, and if someone of his calibre is doing that, I see no reason not to.

    LLMs aren’t doing the work for me. They’re just making me more efficient, especially on the stuff I already know how to do. And they help me ramp up quicker when learning something new.