Doctor House would be top right but partly because you wouldn’t need to run very far.
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eighty@lemmy.oneto Autism@lemmy.world•How Do You Manage Emotional Dysregulation?English3·10 months agoThanks for understanding, it’s a lot to deal with and it’s great your reaching out.
- Hyperarousal refers to symptoms that signal that you’re overstimulated (fight-and-flight response, anxiety, reactive emotions, agression, defensiveness). Hypoarousal are symptoms that signal that you’re being understimulated (think disassociations, withdown, fatigue, intrusive thoughts.) Being able to target the zone between these states (the window of tolerance) where you are aware of the present moment, able to regulate emotions, and feel secure lets you regulate the thoughts and emotions.
Understanding what over and understimulates helps identify triggers, especially since emotions can be quite intense. There’s a few ways to regulate and it’s all about finding what works for you.
- The strategy I leaned into was breaking down my mental processes into “Thoughts, Feelings, Behavior” so for example Thoughts: Literally no one would use this basketball. She’s holding onto it like everything else like a hoarder. Feelings: Anger, Frustration, Disappointment Behaviour (Things I want to do or did do): Loudly stomping, throwing things. This let’s me analyse it and evaluate whether this is rational, valid, reasonable etc as well as stop my thought process and try to improve such as not making presumptions or talking with her.
If you can find it, the stuff my therapist and I referenced are in a book called The Neurodivergent Friendly Workbook of DBT Skills by Sonny Jane Wise (2022), specifically Section 3 and Section 5. Hopefully a pdf is available somewhere but I don’t have time tonight sadly.
eighty@lemmy.oneto Autism@lemmy.world•How Do You Manage Emotional Dysregulation?English7·11 months agoApologies for the late response, I had a day.
For some context, some time ago I ended my first long-term relationship and the following months I was highly reactive, erratic, impulsive, and perpetual filled with anger. These bouts of rage seemingly came out of nowhere and got to the point where I didn’t feel safe driving or socialising. After three or so months I decided to see a therapist - where a few months, they suggested I may be on the spectrum after discussing my patterns and troubles.
One of the most important takeaways I got was:
- All emotions are valid. Emotions are simply messengers (think like phone notifications) that are signalling something of “interest”. If you keep ignoring it without addressing the cause (i.e. swiping away the notification instead of dealing with the content/application), that emotion/notification will keep popping off especially if it’s caused by something important/difficult. It’ll pop up in different ways, in inappropriate contexts, and with different intensities until it explodes - saying “I need to be addressed”. For me, I exploded into a rage over an old basketball my auntie was intent on keeping.
Everyone will react to different situations with different emotional responses. You can’t control a reaction, especially an emotional one. It’s the following behaviour that is under your control and should be questioned. E.g. It’s perfectly valid for me to feel “anger” at perceived impractical behaviour but belittling them in response is probably not the best action.
Others tid bits I partially remember and be happy to expand on:
- Window of Tolerance. What are signs of you being in hypoarousal and hyperarousal? You are at your most effective as a person when you are in between, within the window.
- Understand whats stimuli or activities calm you down. Taste, smell, sounds. Listening and paying attention to what you like and writing it down can be fun because you can kinda rediscover yourself by the stuff you take for granted (e.g. I like the smell of petrichor and that calms me down)
- S.T.O.P
1.Stop, pause, and don’t react 2.Take a step back, walkway, and take a deep breath 3. Observe, notice your surroundings and how you feel 4. Proceed mindfully
- Use the Mammalian Diving Reflex. This is a catch-all calming method since most if not all individuals have.
There’s so much one could talk about (mindfulness exercises, understanding what you can control such as moving away from an environment or adjusting the environment to your needs, being able to say no and draw boundaries) that a therapist can cater to your need that’s it might be worth an investment in to get a solid foundation and guidance if it’s available.
Again, sorry for the late message but I’m happy to expand on each of these that seem applicable, especially when I’m in front of a PC rather than my phone. Here for you friend ✌️
eighty@lemmy.oneto Autism@lemmy.world•How Do You Manage Emotional Dysregulation?English8·11 months agoI just woke up but I’ll have a response for you when I can.
eighty@lemmy.oneto Piracy: ꜱᴀɪʟ ᴛʜᴇ ʜɪɢʜ ꜱᴇᴀꜱ@lemmy.dbzer0.com•What does a post-piracy world look like?English16·1 year agohonestly not trying to be a shill but there was a brief period that caught a glimpse of a post-piracy world where there were very little streaming services that had all the content you could want. It moved me away from piracy because of the convenience, library, and being able to share with friends and family.
Ideally a post-piracy world would have the options for uncensored/original versions of content, the ability to buy and store said content locally and own in perpetuity, with a price point for access to a vast library from a very small number of services. As many have said, the way to combat “piracy” is to offer a service better than piracy itself.
eighty@lemmy.oneto Nintendo@lemmy.world•Nintendo Switch System Update Ver. 18.0.0English271·1 year agoIn 2075, The Nintendo Switch is widely regarded by scientists and engineers all over the world as the most stable object in the known universe.
What’s that phenomenon where as a child you were told a “fact”, internalised it, and lived your life presuming it was true until someone points out how obviously wildly untrue it was that you momentarily question reality?
Because I was today’s years old when I realised how ridiculous cutting complete blood flow would be. Thank you (genuinely!)
Funnily, the animal was named after the greek mythological figure of the same name. Wife of Typhon and considered the mother of monsters - including Cerberus.
It’s sad to see parents one up the children instead of elevate them
eighty@lemmy.oneto Autism@lemmy.world•Fellow auties, which do you find is a better and healthier fit for you: dating another autistic person or an NT?English5·1 year agoI dated a NT who loved my rants. This was before I got my diagnosis. they’re out there and I’d agree it’s more about compatibility - just keep living your life and see who you come across :)
The width of a scarf matches the height of a human neck, so a scarf for an ostrich would look closer to a blanket. That or a tube sock.
Edit: I just realized, given the length of the ostrich and relative proportions, a human scarf would be closer to a decorative necklace
or choker.
eighty@lemmy.oneto Technology@beehaw.org•Alphv ransomware group claims to have hacked Reddit, threatens to leak data unless money paid and API changes reverted10·2 years agoI’d be surprised if the data was just content. Memes and texts aren’t particularly valuable.
However, data that can be used for tracking/developing user profiles such as what they’re subscribed to, how active they are, and how they all link to one another is especially useful for conpetetitors and marketers. Plus any personal data such as emails and profiles. I wouldn’t be surprised if you managed to get a huge amount of data under 80gb if it’s just text (think how big a 80gb excel sheet would be)
eighty@lemmy.oneto Linux@lemmy.ml•Linus Torvalds -- Creator of Linux -- defends gun regulation, woke communists, womens rights AND trans rights. Linux is political!English151·2 years agoI can relate to the “how the fuck is being a concerned human being extreme/poltical?” energy in the post hard.
raises an interesting question - would taxpayers be able to sue or compel the city to sue the Trump campaign to make them whole? If we allow a precedent that bills can go unpaid indefinitely then the trump campaign essentially siphons funds from unwitting taxpayers and maintains an otherwise defunct campaign.
Oh wait, that’s just how the wealthy live.