Friend, this is an ADHD community. Not a, “have you tried changing your outlook” community.
ADHD advocate, former certified peer recovery specialist (specializing in suicide ideation when comorbid with neurodivergence.)
I don’t usually pay attention to whichever instance I’ve drifted into from all, so if you see me in a weird place, that’s why!
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I can’t say yours can. But mine was.
Let me clarify; by getting on a medicine to regulate my sleep (I have delayed sleep phase, and of course I was depressed not sleeping) and getting on an ADHD med to help me with… all this, after a few years of working with my doctor and providing monthly feedback, I was able to fix the things that caused my depression.
I like to warn people it’s not overnight. And it’s a process. And it takes time. But I went from constant, high-key, wish I was dead, tried to die a couple times… to happy. Capable. Well-rested. Looking forward to the rest of my life. Because even if some things are hard, making myself get up in the morning isn’t anymore. I find joy in things. Even small things. I can do the fucking laundry. And I only rarely get so overwhelmed with the idea of doing all the stupid stuff I have to do to live!
When you’re as depressed as I was, just the thought that maybe, one day, even if it’s years away, it wouldn’t suck every single moment felt so close to something like hope that I needed that. I know I’m not alone. I know other people need that now.
So I try and tell people every single day (I do most of it in person but I try to do it online), if you’re willing to put in the effort just a bit… things already suck right? May as well suck with an option they might not later.
But if I could go back in time I would absolutely tell myself, prioritize the sleep first. Make sure you get something that helps you sleep, but doesn’t make you sleep too long, and you can wake up without being a zombie. Everything else went much better and faster for me after that one thing was figured out.
flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.comto THE POLICE PROBLEM@lemmy.world•Robbers pretending to be ICE agentsEnglish1·7 days agoAnd yet you were upvoted, and I was down.
Which is weird, in a community devoted to pointing out that the police are the problem. If you tell even the most bootlicky of bootlickers that criminals are using their favorite law enforcement officers as a smokescreen to do evil shit, many of them will turn.
flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.comto THE POLICE PROBLEM@lemmy.world•Robbers pretending to be ICE agentsEnglish1·8 days agoDid you not read the article that was attached? Multiple outlets in Philadelphia reported this incident.
It’s both!
Hooraaaaaaaay!
It feels like we could make a compelling chart a person can roll on to determine which of these things they’ll be bad at, and which they’ll be good at.
This is my hourly reminder that common knowledge was that girls “don’t get ADHD” until fairly recently, so all the symptoms we developed trying to mask or as a result of abuse from our behaviors can often be identified first.
Which is why my treatment resistant major depressive disorder, which ruined my young suicidal life from age 9 to 34, has almost entirely resolved as a result of treating my ADHD.
I apologize if you’ve seen me say it before, but Selective Seratonin Reuptake Inhibitors can’t work if there’s no Seratonin to Inhibit!! SSRIs can’t RI if there’s no S!
The half eaten cold food was the most personal part of this personal attack.
Mine is a really big dog, and it’s leash is tied to me.
Because it often drags me off to pursue stuff, whether I want to or not.
I am entirely over ‘blank won’t fuck you’ as a response to shit. It’s cliched and trite and kills a conversation.
Drugs!
But the more helpful answer is; I break it down into as many steps as possible in a document or on a piece of paper. Then, when looking at all that is overwhelming, I take the first few steps and put them on their own document. And then I plan a break after those.
And at the end of the break I take the next few.
Now you might be wondering- “flicker, what if I look at that list, and I still can’t figure out where to start?”
And my answer is, if I made the list of steps and it still seems like too much, I try making a list for those steps.
But I also treat it like an addict does kicking their addiction.
This huge list might seem like a lot, but even if I can’t do it all, even if I can’t do much? I can do this one thing. I put on music to make it easier to tolerate, or TV in the background, or both, and resolve to do just one thing.
Because there’s times when one thing is too many. So if I do one, I beat that record.
If I do the one thing, I might do another? But that’s to decide after the one thing. Just doing one is a big deal. We will start there.
If you need tips for organizing your ADHD, I’m here to help!*
*while the stimulant medication is in effect
Lol I’m ridiculous
I’m glad this was your takeaway as well because it felt to me like the second person was belittling the first, and… they really should shut the fuck up.
There’s misplaced, lost, and I put it somewhere safe.
The last one is the most dangerous and you’ll never see it again.
This is the ADHD memes community.
It gets very frustrating when people comment on every meme suggesting that this feeling might be caused by something else. ADHD unfortunately has to fight pretty powerfully to occupy a space for just ADHD.
I have family visiting later this week so I have a ton of stuff I want done before they get here…
So of course I played House Flipper all day.
flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.comto ADHD memes@lemmy.dbzer0.com•I'm going to murder you nowEnglish4·1 month agoAdditionally, I work 12 hour shifts, so I either have to do an IR in the afternoon, or an XR in the late morning…
Literally I use my glasses as the example whenever I face an, “it’s not natural!” Argument.