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Cake day: December 19th, 2023
  • klemptor@startrek.websitetoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•[Relationship advice] How do I stop feeling distraught after I set up a whole situation for me and got disappointed when things went not as expected?
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    9 hours ago

    First of all, it’s great that you recognize unhealthy patterns of thought and behavior in yourself. That’s a great first step!

    That said, a few thoughts:

    • You’re not ready for a relationship - and I don’t say this to be mean, but you seem too immature for a relationship, especially one with the added challenges of being long-distance.
    • Based on your responses to other comments, she is also too immature for a relationship.
    • You created what’s called a ‘covert contract’ - meaning you had unspoken expectations which is almost a guarantee that the other person will let you down because you didn’t communicate with them. Unless both of you agree to plans, you don’t have plans.
    • I think you need to shift your main source of socializing from the internet to IRL. The internet is great and everything but it’s not the same a real life, and I worry that too much internet socializing can stunt your real life social skills, making it harder to connect with people down the road.

    You sound pretty young so I’m assuming some of this is just young kid angst and will smooth out over time. Good luck!

  • klemptor@startrek.websitetoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•is co-sleeping really a problem?
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    3 days ago

    It looks like this has been deleted, but uou just posted a question in a parenting community asking how to talk to your son about puberty. He’s twelve. He needs personal space and privacy, and he definitely needs to be sleeping in his own bed. Imagine how awful and confusing it would be for him to have a wet dream while in bed with you.

    Please set a boundary here for his own good. And get to the bottom of why he can’t sleep.

    Also I feel like you’ve posted about this before?

  • klemptor@startrek.websitetoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What music do you have a reason for avoiding?
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    9 days ago

    Country music. That twangy sound is super grating to me, I hate the way certain vowels get stretched out, plus I have no cultural touchpoints with it on either a lyrical or musical level. The stuff that seems most popular is the most obnoxious to me. I’m told this is “the Nashville sound”. Different strokes for different folks, but I sincerely don’t get the appeal of it.

    But there’s some country-adjacent music that can be alright. E.g., my husband got really into Sturgill Simpson and I ended up more or less liking his Sound and Fury album, even if some of the vocals do have that irritating twang. I guess I’d consider that more like country-infused rock.

    And I guess some older country can be OK once in a while - e.g., Johnny Cash, Dolly Parton.