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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • This is the same man who said men paying for women’s education is a dumb move because she would end up leaving him in the end.

    This sentence alone is reason to seriously question the relationship. He’s saying that keeping women dumb is the only way to keep them reliant on men. Think about it: are there any admirable people/organizations who think this way?

    If he has self-esteem issues, that’s unfortunate, but it’s not your job to fix them. Please don’t burn yourself out trying. It won’t work, because changing yourself takes hard work, and why should he do something hard when he’s already getting what he wants from you?

    I feel like he is just using me for sex and a future financial support.

    Trust your feelings. Ditch the manchild and find someone deserving. You are worth it.











  • I used to be on the fence concerning AI graphics, but I’ve learned since then and am now totally against AI slop. Amusing “that’s kinda neat” images like the one above are absolutely not worth the cost to artists. I just can’t get excited about software that’s designed to plagiarize the work of people who are barely scraping by. Plus, those data centers are an energy-hogging nightmare.

    Either reason alone is good enough to be against AI, but together, the situation is simply ludicrous.


  • The fact that you’re even asking suggests that you genuinely give a damn and have the right mindset. Feeling anxious in a situation like this is perfectly natural. You seem like a good brother.

    Don’t bombard him with questions about what prison life is like. He’s going to have enough to deal with; don’t make him recount tales of a terrible period of his life. On the other hand, let him talk if he wants to. Listen and be supportive.

    Don’t sneak up on him. For example, if he’s watching TV in the living room and didn’t notice you walk in, clear your throat or something.

    I imagine that privacy is a thing he will value highly. NEVER walk into his room without knocking and waiting for him to respond. None of that “knock while opening the door” bullshit.

    Be patient, sensitive, and give him time to adjust. This will be a HUGE change for him - almost as big as adjusting to prison life. You’re going to have to do a difficult balancing act between helping him and not treating him like a baby. Nobody would get that right 100% of the time. Don’t judge yourself too harshly when the inevitable mistakes happen.

    Consider showing him this thread.