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Cake day: July 5th, 2023

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  • If this happens at work then yeah, definitely a personal trait that you need to work on.

    As someone who shares the same trait and has learned to manage it with time, I recommend you look into anger management. Plenty of free stuff online to start with but a professional can be a huge help, if you can afford it or if your workplace is willing to assist you with getting to a resource.

    For me the key is being self aware enough that before I blow up I recognize where I’m headed and DISENGAGING until I can settle down. Blowing up, for me, is an ego driven/lashing out issue. It’s complicated and I don’t feel like explaining, but that’s me. I can tell when it’s happening and I care more about not being unprofessional or damaging interpersonal relationships so I DISENGAGE before I get there, which does not FEEL as good, but it’s necessary.

    I can’t tell you exactly what you need to do, but I would bet a lot of money that you can start to identify when you’re headed in that direction and stop the train before you go off the tracks. To do so you need to be willing to put your ego aside whether you think you’re right or wrong and LEAVE the room or end the conversation. To do so is not easy because you want to release whatever you’re thinking about the current real/perceived grievance, but if you’re not being a functional member of society because you blow up in a rage then you have to modify your own behavior somehow. Disengaging is the simplest and most effective way to manage it.

    With time and more self reflection, personal work, therapy, maturity, whatever - you’ll need to disengage less and less and can manage/cope without that tool. But for now that should be your goal until you learn to control yourself.

    This isn’t an other people problem, it’s a you problem. It’s not that you’re not allowed to express yourself, but there are appropriate and inappropriate ways to do so in polite society, between friends and loved ones, and in a workplace. If you can’t admit that then start there.

    Get on board or lose friends, break up, and get fired.


  • HVAC isn’t the only trade. HVAC is a TON of reactive work due to heating/cooling loss, which has immediate tenant impact that needs to be taken care of ASAP.

    Any utility work is likely in the same boat.

    Depending on your area you could look into framing, masonry, concrete. If you’re detail oriented you can get into cabinetry, tiling. Windows/doors/flooring is good for consistent work. Roofing will likely be consistent but it’s hard af and fucking dangerous, I wouldn’t recommend.

    You want to look for businesses that do new construction/commercial if you’re looking for steady work. If you’re getting into the industry you’ll likely start as a laborer, but if you’re a good worker that shows up on time you’ll quickly outgrow that because a TON of laborers are super unreliable, drugged out, shady etc. It’s hard work, and often fairly thankless at first, but if you have a good attitude and show that you want to learn you’ll get a taste of different stuff and can maybe narrow down where you want to focus. It could mean you take a pay cut at first depending on what you’re making now, but if you can get picked up as an apprentice in a union you might get over that hump (depends on your area and the union… I’ve seen IBEW brothers who work in restaurants when there isn’t enough work to get them out on jobs. Totally depends on your area/season/trade).

    Another possibility is mechanic, diesel is not going anywhere as well as bodywork/paint, but I’m not really sure how that industry is to break in to. If you’re not a car guy you might struggle to get your first hire unless you’re willing to do cleaning or other stuff at a shop/dealer and work your way up, but I don’t really know.

    The best time to start a career was when you were 18, perhaps. The second best time is tomorrow. It’s up to you what you want to do with your life but most of us don’t get stuff handed to us so if you want something better for yourself you’ll have to look for the opportunities and push for them.


  • If you want to try roasting, rub with just enough olive, avocado, or corn oil (my preferences in order), and sprinkle with salt, pepper, garlic (powder works just fine but you can crush some fresh or use paste), and onion powder, and throw it on a sheet pan with parchment paper or foil from 375-425 (anywhere is fine - I prefer a bit higher because I like it to be crisp and a bit med rare in the middle, but if you prefer it more well then set it lower). You can brighten it up when it comes out with a bit of lemon if you like, but that kind of depends on the rest of your salad.

    Tastes great with a balsamic, Caesar, or ranch style dressing. I like to use a smoked paprika vinaigrette that’s a bit sweet.

    After you pull it you can let it cool down to throw on your salad, or just send it hot!


  • Perhaps. But you realize it now, and you also have the opportunity to take things in a different direction if you want.

    Communication is important. Admitting when you did something that you think is wrong is good, we all make mistakes. Tell her that you’re sorry and why, and let it be. Either she will forgive you and you guys can move forward if it works, or she won’t want anything to do with you, and both are fine. Emotions are complicated.


  • So I will preface my comment with the fact that I hate Internet ads and do everything within my power to block and/or avoid them. Aside from being annoying they’re a blatant security and malware risk, and I avoid them for that reason alone.

    That being said, hosting websites gets pretty expensive pretty fast when lots of people come to your site, especially with the advent of much higher bandwidth media that goes along with better quality images and video.

    In my opinion the fact that the majority of people just have an expectation that everything online should be free is THE problem. I was there when the Internet was free and open and without ads. That was the culture, and the root of the issue we have today is that that culture is the foundation of the general expectation that it should continue to be so.

    But that’s not sustainable with the costs involved in hosting today. Shit costs money yo, why should other people bear that so you can search for recipes for free without it being annoying for you?

    The fact that nobody is willing to pay for content via subscriptions or paid apps is literally why the ad-based model is the overwhelming majority of the Internet, and apps, and why data collection/sales is so rampant.

    Web development and running a webpage is not easy. Even for those that are skilled enough that it’s easy for them, it takes a ton of time. Usually multiple people’s time for any site with enough visitors to make it a good site. App development is hard and takes a skill set that requires a lot of training or time investment to learn. Why should all that go for free for you?

    Until people are willing to pay for content they find valuable the Internet will be a hell hole ridden with ads. YouTube ads are awful, but do you have any idea how much it costs to run YouTube? You think someone should just absorb that out of the goodness of their hearts? Ridiculous.

    The goal of the Internet is still to share information and communicate, but all the hardware and bandwidth and time costs real dollars, and the only way for most sites to recoup that is via ads because people just won’t pay anything if given an option, they’ll just go to another site that has free content, because there’s SO MUCH stuff that you can generally find what you want, for free with ads, somewhere else.

    There’s only two possible solutions that I see:

    1. everyone starts being willing to pay for content they find valuable. I don’t see this happening. There’s too many people that share your opinion without taking into account what it costs to actually run a modern website.

    2. some complicated type of system that directly pays websites for use, based off of usage from people. I think this is almost too complicated to implement that it’s likely impossible with today’s Internet. If we want to also maintain privacy/anonymity when surfing I can’t see how this can ever work - so unless we have some future system where people are uniquely identifiable on the Internet, and then some additional system that somehow “fairly” compensates websites for traffic from users, this won’t happen. It would need to involve ISPs, their customers, and web site owners in some coordinated payment system to work.

    Not to sound too preachy but to me your comment comes off as super entitled.

    I pay for apps that I think are valuable, even ones with no cost like Signal. Because I value what they provide. I subscribe to sites that I find valuable enough to do so when it’s an option. I abhor data collection and ads and I fight them without prejudice. But even I don’t think I pay enough directly to offset how much I cost providers, I’m sure I don’t, but that’s mostly laziness because it’s a pain to pay every site directly so I donate to the ones I really appreciate and use heavily. If I could pay my ISP for my link and then have a direct credit system that throws dollars and cents directly into website coffers as I use them, that would be great - but I don’t want to give up my privacy either, so… Yeah.

    Long story short, ad-based content is going nowhere until there’s a fundamental shift in either people or how the Internet operates.




  • That same target audience would be the least equipped to install a new drive or handle any problems that do come up. How many John Q public people have even opened up their laptop to dust it out?

    Problems might be rare, but if I am selling a product (in this case new storage with Linux on it) I need to be able to charge enough to cover all my overhead. Every time I sell it and it doesn’t work out of the box that’s time spent helping the customer, more shipping/return costs, or both. Markup has to cover all that, and I’d guess that it’s not viable as a business model to charge a high enough price to deal with all the random static from computer illiterate people.

    I get what you’re saying but I just don’t see it being a viable business strategy to sell this product to that target audience.

    Anyone who knows enough to seek out and purchase a Linux OS drive can just download and install it themselves.


  • I’m not an expert but I have five orchids in the house and they’re all doing really well, so I just be doing something right - one of them was in worse shape than yours when I got it six months ago, and it’s about to bloom for the first time very soon :D

    All that to say, caveat this advice with the fact that the watering method/frequency might not be 100% optimal. All the products I use are listed at the end of this post.

    All my orchids are potted in orchid bark, with the slitted plastic orchid pots inside of beauty pots.

    I use a water bottle and thoroughly spray every orchid once a day, generally in the mornings. I use enough water to start saturating the roots (you can tell when they start to change color from white ish to a darker color). I also make sure to get the potting medium nice and wet, but not so saturated that the pot drains freely, and I want it to be dry 24 hours later so it doesn’t mold. It’s usually about 25-30 pumps per orchid. I have tried ice cubes in the past but I really don’t like that method - very difficult to get water on all the roots.

    Once weekly I do the same application method but I use a probiotic&fertilizer spray that I mix instead. I follow the quantum orchid probiotic directions to mix one gallon of liquid, and add about 1/4 teaspoon of better-gro orchid better-bloom (instead of the normal mix ratio that’s 1 teaspoon per gallon, because I apply it 4x a month instead of 1x a month as the fertilizer directions state. You can use probiotic daily if you want and it won’t hurt the orchids but you can definitely over-fertilize).

    Trim the dead/dying parts, get it into some good fresh potting medium, and water regularly. Good chance it’ll come back, but it’ll look dormant for a while. If you see new leaves start to grow you’re in business! Good luck.

    Potting medium: https://www.ebstone.org/product/orchid-bark-fine-med/ Pots (something like this): https://www.repotme.com/collections/slotted-orchid-pot Spray bottles: https://camelcamelcamel.com/product/B096LN2NBH Probiotic: https://www.repotme.com/products/quantum-orchid Fertilizer: https://camelcamelcamel.com/product/B004Z8OL12









  • Louis explains in several videos on his channel.

    They’re experimenting with a business model where they ask users to pay for the product if you get value from it. Development isn’t free, their time is valuable. In return they’ll never harvest and sell your data.

    If this experiment is a success it can demonstrate that it’s a viable business strategy to not harvest data, which is good for everyone.

    Personally, at this point I’m trying out the FUTO keyboard but it’s too janky for me to pay for it. Lots of bugs and swipe is not good. I hope it gets better and I’m trying to help the project by submitting bug reports.

    Grayjay I’ve barely used but I see the potential, and if it gets good I’ll pay for it. I paid for Signal messenger because it’s the same kind of thing.

    It’s up to you. They’re telling you what the price is, it’s the honor system if you use it and get value from it.